Drug Alcohol Help For Parents Q&A Archive
of 100 Previously Answered Questions

Our 48 Yr Old Son Suffers Dual Diagnosis-Bipolar and Alcoholism. How Do We Handle This? 
My son is single, intelligent, hard working and is aware that he suffers bi polar II disease that inevitably leads to extended drunkeness. He has been …

My 20 Year Old Son is Using Drugs, Lying and Stealing. How Do I Handle it? 
My son move out when he was 18, he is now almost 21. I have paid for 3 semesters of college and he has failed out 3 times. He lies about everything and …

Do I Enable Him? My Drug Addicted Son Has Asked Me To Lend Him Money  
My son is out of the house. He is 22. His father made him go because he disrespected rules and stole from us. We took his car when he was 18. He has …

Our Adult Son is on Drugs and Denies It. What Is the Best Thing to Say to Him When He Calls? 
I wrote earlier about our 40 yr. old son on drugs and your answer was very helpful and reaffirmed what we are doing and already knew. I have been taking …

My Son is a Recovering Herion Addict, Is it Normal for Him to Still be so Self Consumed and Not Recognize Feelings of Others? 
My son is a recovering heroin addict. He has struggled for the past eight years with drug addiction ... he is 24 years old. We are very proud of his recovery …

My Step Son is Ruining His Life and Ours Through His Drug and Alcohol Addiction! 
Hi, I am a step mum to two boys one who is 16 in Feb and one who is 22 in Nov. The 15 year old lives with me and his dad and goes to his mums every 2 …

My Son is Addicted to Drugs. He is Lying, Stealing and Just Doesn't Care. 
My son is 18 years old. I believe he has been doing drugs for about a year and a half. I just found out a few months ago. I got him help talking to a counsellor …

What Can I Do to Help my Son Stay Clean On His Return Home from Drug Rehab?  
My 19 yr old son will be coming home from his first (and hopefully only) drug rehab program. He sounds wonderful and is hopeful he will be successful in …

I Am Concerned That My 20 Year Old Son May be Addicted to Either Alcohol or Drugs 
My son is 20 years old and in college. He has struggled within the last year with a few major life issues, but has continued to do well in engineering …

I Think my Son has Addiction Problems and Authority Problems, What Do I Do? 
My 19 year old son has always had a rebellious spirit and a problem with authority. He was accused of drugs in high school, though he never failed a drug …

My Son is a College Binge Drinker 
My son is 23 yrs old and is about to graduate from college. He is great person until he decides to go on a drinking binge and then he does irresponsible …

My Drug Addicted Son Wants to Come Home to Live, Should I Let Him? 
He has been in some drug rehab, but has not gone away for treatment. He has stolen from us and his sister. My daughter wants to call the police about him …

How Do I Help my 23 Year Old Daughter With Her Alcohol Problem? 
My 23 year old daughter has been drinking since she was 15 or 16. She has been hospitalized for alcohol poisoning. In September of 08 She went to rehab …

My Daughter Has a Drug Addiction. What Can I Do? 
My daughter has a drug addiction - just got out of prison after 3 years and I know that she is already on it again. When I try to talk to her she gets …

My Drug Addicted Son is Out of Control. How Do I Handle This? 
My alcoholic/Drug Addicted Son is Out of Control. How Do I Handle This? his only 21 and he gets drunk and causes a lot of problems with me and my husband. …

My Son is Drinking and Doing Drugs. Should I Kick Him out of the House? 
My son is 19 years old. He has depression and does not take his anti-depression medicine everyday. He wants to party and does not want to go into rehab. …

My 28 Year Old Son Says His Pain is So Intense He Needs the Drugs. What Do I Do? 
My 28 year old son has had drug problems for many years. He has been to 3 rehabs, the last which cost over 20 thousand dollars, and none of which had any …

My Adult Son is an Alcoholic and Has just been Diagnosed with Leukemia (CLL).  
My son has been an alcoholic for 20 to 30 years. He is 46. He was recently diagnosed with chronic lymphomic leukemia. His doctor told him he is in a …

My 22 yr Old Son is Drinking Heavily and Using Cocaine. I Am Not Sure if the Tough Love Approach is Appropriate? 
My son went through inpatient rehab 4 yrs ago for alcohol, heavy marijuana use, cocaine addiction. He was sober for a few months but went back to drinking, …

My Daughter Gets out of Rehab for Heroin Addiction Saturday. Should She Come Back Home? 
My daughter is 22 and has always lived at home. She has been using Heroin for 2 years. This is her first inpatient rehab, she was in outpatient rehab last …

My 22 Year Old Son Is Addicted to Opiates and Heroin. What Can I Do to Help Him? 
I am divorced mother with a 22 year old son who has been addicted to drugs for several years. He started smoking pot at the age of 14 and using painkillers …

Worried About Our Son's Problem Drinking: Are We Being Bad Parents? 
My 20 year old son has always been an "individual" wanting to do his own thing rather than being conventional. This my husband and I do not have a problem …

My Daughter Drug Addiction Got Her in Jail: When She Gets Out Should I Let Her Come Home? 
We hired an attorney to get all of my daughters drug charges dropped provided she go to rehab ... I asked her if this is what she wanted to do because …

My Son is Out of Control Due to His Drug and Alcohol Addiction. What Do I Do? 
My son is 19 and for the last seven or eight years life has just been a continuous nightmare. He has periods where he doesn't drink or do drugs for a while, …

My Son is a Heroin Addict. It's Killing Me. What Can I Do? 
Hi, My son is 22 years old, He was in Rehab in December of 2009, he got out then he came to stay with me, prior to that he had lived with different people …

My Daughter is an Alcoholic and Single Parent. How Can I Best Help My Granddaughter? 
My 28 year old daughter is an alcoholic. She is the mother of my 3 year old granddaughter. She is a single parent. How can I best help my granddaughter? …

My Daughter Has Been Drinking for 6 Months and Is Going to Rehab Tomorrow ... 
Mu daughter has been drinking excessively for 6 months and is very concerned about stopping. She has some severe physical and psychological problems and …

My 19 yr Old Son Says Smoking Marijuana and Drinking Beer are what ALL Boys Do At That Age and that I am Being Unreasonable. Am I? 
My 19 year old son has been smoking marijuana and drinking alcohol for at least the past year. He does not do this around me or his siblings but I have …

My Daughter and Her Cocaine Addiction ... She's Using Again, What Do I Do? 
My daughter was using cocaine. She went to a rehab two years ago, however she is still using occasionally. Three months ago her boyfriend left to go to …

My Drug Addicted Son is Out of Control - What Should I Do? 
My name is Bob my son is 19 and he is always on Xanax (Bars) and I think something called blues. He got kicked out of college, he is home and does not …

My Son ... a Drug Addict ... is in a One Year Rehab Program. Do I Help Him While There? 
Hi, My son is 39 years old and has been a drug addict for most of his life. My husband and I have been a big part of the problem because we have always …

Step Sons Addiction Ruining His Father and My Marriage  
We have been married for 10 years, and for about 8 maybe 9, my stepson has controlled our lives, he is now 28 years old. He has had dui, multiple drug …

My 29-year-old Son is Addicted to Prescription Drugs and Currently in Jail - Should I Bail Him Out? 
Do anti-depressants really work or do we just create a new breed of drug addicts? When my son was 25 years old a doctor decided that he was suffering from …

Could My Son Be a Drug Addict? He's Disappeared and Not Sure Why ... 
I am very concerned. My son, 32 years old, has lost his job several times but he would always find a new one. In the last year or two he would go to work …

My Son is Doing Drugs and I Want To Get Him Help 
My Son has lost his job because of drugs. I think he is doing it in my home. Stays by himself most of the time. I am very worried and can not go on watching …

My Son and His Ex-girlfriend both have Addiction Problems. What Can We Do To Be Certain That Their Son Will Not Have Dependency Problems too? 
My son has been treated twice for being addicted to alcohol. His ex-girlfriend has had treatment for drug addiction, and has similar problems with alcohol. …

Grown Children Living With Me Addicted to Drugs - HELP!? 
I am 66 and living on Social Security. My son 35 and daughter 38 live with me. They are both drug addicts. My daughter is getting 140mgs methadone from …

Drug Rehab Centers ... Do They Actually Work? 
I’m feeling agitated, annoyed and upset. My son has relapsed again (the 3rd time) ... and it’s been suggested we need to get him into a drug rehab program …

My Daughter's Boyfriend Introduced Her to Oxycontin. My Husband Wants Him Out of Her Life But She's Resisting .... 
My daughter has a boyfriend of one year who introduced her to oxy. She has been using with him on and off for 10 months. She is only 16 he is 18. When …

My 19 Year Old Son is Addicted to Oxyconten, Do I Need to Kick Him Out? 
Hi, I have a 19 year old son who has been doing Oxy for the last 2 years. I was 18 when I had him, but took excellent care of him. I raised him stable, …

Is my Daughter an Alcoholic? 
My daughter is 21, very sweet girl. Her father is a 3rd generation alcoholic and tries to recover but not sucessfully. She has always been a hard child …

How Do I Choose a Good Drug Rehab Treatment Facility for my Daughter? 
I have a 17 year old daughter addicted to amphetamines. I think she got involved with drugs at around the age of 15. I’m not sure exactly how it started, …

My 16 Year Old Son Says He Can Handle His Alcohol Problem, Should I Believe Him? 
I just found out that my 16 year old son was drinking alcohol for a couple of years and also used tobacco and even tried some drugs. Both my husband …

My Out of Control Son and His Drug Addiction. He's Being Arrested Regularly and I Don't Know What To Do? 
I need some advice please, my son who has just turned 20, has gone completely off the rails in last year. He has dropped out of college, split up with …

How Do I Stop Worrying About My Son Relapsing from His Addictions? He's 21, An Adult and I Still Can't Let Go. 
My son has been through three 28 day rehabs and has relapsed several times. His first rehab was for heroin use and after that he went to a halfway house. …

My Son Got Arrested for Possessing Illegal Narcotics. How Do We Handle This? 
My 21 year old son recently got arrested for possessing illegal narcotics. He was at some event or party, the police raided the place, and they found a …

Our Adult Son (age 40) is on Drugs and Depressed--What Can We Do to Help?? Not rated yet
We are older parents with a 40 y/o son who has been on various drugs over the years and we have been enablers. We have previously helped him each time …

My Son Changes Completely When Drunk Not rated yet
I am worried about my now 18 year old son. Last night, I was called by a friend to come and pick up my drunk son from a party. By the time I got there, …

My Daughter is Addicted to Drugs. How Do I Approach Her?  Not rated yet
My daughter is addicted to drugs and doesn't know that I know. Last night I arranged for a drug rehabilitator to come past the house to confront her in …

My Stolen Years: Drug Court - Can It Work for My Drug Addicted Daughter? Not rated yet
If there is anyone out there who can recommend a solution, please share it. My 19 1/2 yr old daughter is pending a court date for possession of oxy codone, …

My Opiate Addicted Son Not rated yet
My son is 31 years old and is totally addicted to opiates and Xanex, from what I understand these two are totally lethal. I know he is a big boy but he …

Helping Our Daughter With Her Drug Problem Not rated yet
Hi, A little history first. I am the father of two girls 26yrs & 23yrs who I love dearly. Their mum and I divorced when they were 11 & 8 which I know was …

My Daughter is in Jail (She is an Alcoholic and Has Been Arrested for Theft), What Do I Say to Her? Not rated yet
My 21 year old daughter is in jail for 93 days. We did not find out until one week into her jail sentence. All of her friends are lying for her. She …

My Drug Addicted Son is Out of Control and Trying to Live Off Us for His Problem. Not rated yet
My son is 25 and has a heroin addiction. He has recently been kicked out for stealing and forging my name on checks and then getting them cashed. The …

Father (Recovering Addict) vs Mother (Victim of Addict) - How Do We Handle Our Son? Not rated yet
I have a 19-year-old son that has had a history of making bad choices. I am at a complete and total loss, according to some of post, drug use or "experimenting", …

Why All The Lies? My Son and His Heroin Addiction Not rated yet
Why does my 23yr old lie to me about his addiction? I now know that he is using heroin, both smoking and, just recently injecting. He is also taking anti …

What Are Our Legal Rights with a Teenager that is Using both Drugs and Alcohol? Not rated yet
I have a 16yr old step son who lives with his mother and has recently started smoking marijuana and drinking alcohol on a regular basis and admits it. …

My 19 yr Old Son Has a Substance Abuse Problem: Should I Kick Him Out? Not rated yet
My son has a substance abuse problem. We sent him to wilderness and then for a year to a program in Samoa. When he returned we enrolled him in community …

My Daughter is Recovering from Crystal Meth Addiction. What's the Rule w.r.t her Being in a Relationship? Not rated yet
My Daughter has used for a year, but has tried to stay clean. She has relapsed a couple of times that I know of, one time being a 2 1/2 month run. She …

We Have Just Found Out our 18 Year Old Son has been Snorting Oxycodone and Codine Not rated yet
We don't know where to go from here. He says that he and his girlfriend only do it occasionally and they use 2.5 pills to snort! he has been getting the …