How Can Life Be Enjoyed Without DRUGS AND ALCOHOL

I have realized that I have an addictive personality. I love drinking, hard drugs and sex, and if I can, would love to do them everyday. Now, I realize that I have a major problem in that everything that's bad and dangerously addictive; I love doing.

My point is that this is my idea of life and I want to change it. I can't seem to enjoy the normal life that normal people lead. I find them superficial, fake and brainwashed by media and society's stupid values. As a result, I find comfort in my addictions that help forget and give a good time at the same time.

I need your advice on the situation and how can life be enjoyed without drugs and alcohol, because I know I'm headed into a deep deep dark hole. thanks n bless you

Alcoholism-and-Drug-Addiction-Help.com Answer

Interesting question. You talk about superficial, but a life of drugs, alcohol and casual sex are exactly that. The high may be good for a while, but soon they'll become even more meaningless than everything else ... leaving you feeling more empty than ever and descending into that deep, dark hole of addiction you mention.

So how do we find meaning and purpose in our lives? Well that's different for everyone. And you have to figure that out for yourself. Right now, alcohol and drugs etc. are simply filling a void for you. So it's about replacing that void with stuff that don't just give you a brief high and then let you crash and burn - but give you more steady and ongoing meaning and pleasure.

Many find meaning through spirituality, which doesn't necessarily equate to organised religion. It could be meditation, yoga or activities regarded as more alternative if that's what you resonate with.

It's also about finding things you enjoy doing (other than getting high) - it may be a sport like surfing or starting to look after yourself by going to gym and eating healthily for example. Like I said, it's different for everyone and you have to try different things until you find what works for you.

It sounds like you're angry about a lot of stuff. And sometimes that's good because when we question things, generally if we go deep enough, the answers that come to us can be very revealing. At the same time you need to do some work ... work on yourself, which may mean getting professional help, to examine your attitudes and feelings towards life.

Life is like a mirror, if you're feeling at ease and at peace, that's what you'll experience. If you're angry and disillusioned that's going to manifest in unhealthy and potentially self-destructive ways, as you're experiencing.

The sex, drugs and rock 'n roll lifestyle may seem appealing - but guaranteed the feeling won't last, because at some point you're going to crash ... and crash hard. And maybe that's what it will take before you become open enough to begin looking at things differently.

Hopefully that's not the case though. Become a student ... a student of life. Make it your mission to explore and unleash all your potential. There is meaning there, you just have to find it for yourself. And when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. So keep searching and you'll find answers.

Good Luck

P.S. And if things get/are out of control for you, get help. It may be the best decision you ever make.

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