Husband Denies That He is an Alcoholic

by Jenny
(Canada)

My hubby drinks 6 pack of beer or a small bottle everyday after work, and then when it comes to Friday he will go out and drink with friends, get really drunk, wake up the next morning and he has to have another drink to get the day going. That drink leads to more during the day and he is again completely drunk by the evening.

Sunday he spends all day recovering and sleeping. My hubby cannot handle his drinks, he becomes very verbally abusive, obnoxious, and very loud, his own parents/brother avoids him at all costs.

I have yelled, screamed, argued, swore, threatened to call the police for a restraining order for making threats. Recently he attacked our older son and swore at him several times, only because my son refused to shake hands with him, because he was completely drunk.

I have left the house many times only to come back when he falls asleep. I have such a weak way of dealing with all this. I don't know what to do, where to go for help, I'm scared to reach out to al-anon. I feel that if I take action then I would be blamed from relatives, that I didn't know how to handle or save my marriage.

Recently he has been trying to cut down, he didn't drink for a whole week, and he is a nice person when he is sober, but when the weekend came he blew it all by getting drunk again and loud, obnoxious and verbally abusive.

My teenager children have had enough ... they are beginning to blame me and it hurts so badly, they are blaming me for not taking action and putting up with this for too long. Our arguments have become really bad, where my teenagers have to control me before controlling him.

They tell me that I am the sober one, and I need to calm down, but I can't help myself because my hubby has begun to drive me insane.

Just today, I recorded his behaviour and I will email it to him with a letter, and advice him to go to an AA meeting, otherwise I KNOW I HAVE TO TAKE ACTION FOR THE SAKE OF MY CHILDREN. I REALLY NEED HELP ON HOW TO DEAL WITH THIS. My hubby is becoming worse as he ages.