My Husband is Addicted to Meth. Should I Stand by Him or Divorce Him?

by Confused
(Georgia)

He is now in jail for a week and will likely be there until he completes time served for his probation which is 11 months. We have a 2 year old and I am 3 months pregnant? Should I divorce him or stand by him?

I have had no contact with him and don't plan to. I refuse to take my children to visit at jail. I am getting a restraining order and going to serve him with divorce papers this week.

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Answer

Only you can answer that question. What are the chances of him turning his life around, beating his drug addiction and becoming a good husband and father?

Ultimately you have to do what is best for you and your kids. And if you think in the long run starting over and providing yourselves with a better, more harmonious home environment is the way to go, then trust your instincts.

Having a healthy, mutually supportive relationship with a drug addict is almost impossible. Their priority is to feed their habit. And that brings lots of toxic and dysfunctional aspects to a relationship, which is even worse when there are children present.

Ultimately your husband has to live with the consequences of his drug addiction and take responsibility for the choices he has made. You are not obliged to stick by someone when all they do is bring heartache, disappointment and all sorts of other toxic elements into a relationship.

But again, its your decision to make. Be honest with yourself about what will be best for you and your kids in the long run. And if you feel divorce and starting over is the way to go, then follow your instincts.

Good Luck.

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