My Husband Is on Crystal Meth.

(Greenville sc)

My husband has been on meth for 4 months. We have been together 8 years. We have 5 children. I am just now finding out but feel very stupid. All the signs were in front of me. I just didn't understand where my husband went. I just ended things with him because it affected our kids so badly.

I found out he cheated as well. This is not him. I love him. I don't want to live without him. I know that he loves me. I know he loves our kids. I am so scared for him. Has he hit his peak in this yet? Can I help him? How do I help him? He is still denying it all....what do I do? Could I have stopped this? Very confused and heart broken.

Alcoholism-and-Drug-Addiction-Help.com Answer

If your husband is in denial about his meth problem, there is very little you can do. And crystal meth is one of the most destructive drugs out there, in terms of how quickly it can destroy a person and those around them, so you've done the right thing by trusting your instincts and leaving him.

Don't take responsibility for something you had no control over. You couldn't have stopped this. Your husband travelled down this road out of his own volition. So whatever you do don't blame yourself or feel guilty about this. Your husband chose drugs. He chose to cheat. He chose to let his family down. It has nothing to do with you.

The only person that can help your husband ... is he, himself. If he gets professional help and is determined to overcome his meth addiction, then things can change. But again that's something you can't control - he has to want it for himself. And until he ready to change, there is very little anyone can say or do that will make much of a difference.

So the most important things for you to focus on right now is your own healing ... and making sure the kids are loved and well looked-after. If your husband turns his life around and comes back to you in time, then so be it. But you can't put your life on hold for that. Your responsibility is to ensure your children are given every opportunity to make the most of their lives.

Consider going for some therapy and joining a group like Nar-Anon, which is for family members of drug addicts. Developing a support structure from others going through what you are can make a world of difference in getting through the tough times. Remember too that time does also heal all wounds so be patient and give yourself time. It will get easier.

Take Care

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